Self Improvement

- Craig Copeland.

Self Improvement

When it comes to improving your “self”, how can you really do this without others? Sure you can study alone. Yes, you can create a business plan, strategy, or do the research for your work projects by yourself, but none of these are really about Self Improvement, are they?

The definition is; “Improvement of one's mind, character, etc., through one's own efforts.“

But why does this have to be the case? Wouldn’t a more appropriate definition be; “Improvement of one's mind, character, etc., through the power of others.“

Now before you go all debate team on this, let’s examine the true root of what’s behind improving the “self”.

We’ve all heard the clinical study about how in addition to food and water (nourishment) a baby needs love, attention, and companionship in order to survive.

But let’s for the moment, say this is untrue. That a baby, or a person can survive without human interaction or touch. Still it begs the question, what kind of life will that person have?

Conversely, what kind of life will a person have who is surrounded by the energy of others in the form of touch, socialization, group interaction, peer and role models, mentors, and counselors? Now, that person has a substantial arsenal of self esteem, self awareness, and self confidence, enough not only to survive, but to thrive.

As humans we learn and develop in three ways; the first way is by observing our role models: most immediately our parents. How they interact, how they manipulate their bodies, use communication, and how they handle the things around them; picking up items, eating, talking, moving, laughing, crying, interacting, and socializing.

A child’s first habits and instincts are to emulate the actions of their role models to begin to utilize and form their own neuro-behavioral system.

The second way in which we learn is through trial and error. When we first attempt to stand we are using muscle strength in various ways; balance and equilibrium all go into our ability to use power and our own internal gyroscopic ability for angular momentum for movement and  rotation.

And when a child falls down, he immediately does two things almost instinctually; first he looks around to see the reaction of others (his group or clan) to see if what he is doing meets with their approval and encouragement, and two, he knows through observation that others have achieved this feat and that he too should be able to duplicate their successes.

The third way that we learn - the hardest and least likely to succeed with - is on our own. Without the help, example, or guidance of another, the child may or may not learn how to use all of his motor function skills and capabilities. It will take him longer to learn, the process to improve and adapt will be slower if there is any progress at all, and the ability to survive will always be at risk.

All of this goes to show that the greatest formula for Self Improvement is through using the power of the group. And we do this the rest of our lives in order to improve and adapt. We’ve observed that it was possible to break the 4-minute mile. We saw that it was possible to break the batting record for most home runs in a season. We learned that others can do incredible things so we too know it's possible not only to duplicate, but to improve upon. With the help and power of others, we are shown it’s okay to fail and we learn how to compensate until we achieve the desired outcome. This cannot be done alone.

When incorporating the power of others into the mix, the odds for success become greater when using the power of others rather than improving the self, by yourself.